Well, i have been contemplating since long whether i should be blogging over this topic or not... and yes, i have finally decided that i will.. i dedicate this post to my cuz Gaurav :) Love u sweetheart... hope u enjoy reading and that it down the years, you too share the viewpoint as i do !
First love! The thought itself sends shivers down my spine. First love is synonymous in most of our lives as something which symbolised immaculate, innocent, immature feelings towards someone! I still remember having a crush on this hunky guy from my 12th class... :-) and me and my best friend yapping away to glory about out crushes. We used decide whether to attend a lecture or not depending on the presence of these guys. I remember the moment when he used to walk into the class in the mornings... and me blushing... ; I remember knowing about him having a cell phone (those days college students didn't have one.. And if they did.. they were considered to be rich dad's spoilt brats!) and a brand new RED car! And what a better reason to break the ice than to ask him about his guitar classes and how could I enroll into one. So that's how we started talking but this was practically at the end of the Ruparel days. But well, great times followed... and Yeah.. I was in love ! It is so uncanny that I still vividly remember each and every moment I spent with him... every date we went, every card I gave, every love letter that i wrote, every walk on the beach with him, every gift that gave,... ! But as all good things come to an end.. so did this one... and it was painful... very! But what i took away from my first relationship is that "love" is not the only thing that can make a relationship work.
Well.. years after this.., there were a few proposals but I didn't wanna step outta my religion to embrace that love.. so things never really bloomed. I still dunno how can so-called "love" be so blind that you can change your existence just to be with a man! Having said that.. I have great respect for those who inter-religion relationships but that's surely not my cup of tea... why it isn't?? hmm.. we'll leave that for some other time.
But yeah.. over these 5 years my understanding of love has undergone complete metamorphosis. I still do believe in love but it is more of companionship... sharing life with someone who will be there with you and understand you .. no matter what. I don't think I'll be able to do all the mushy things that i did before... because i kinda feel a void within myself. (Hopefully someone fills that up soon!) Basically.. I think.. i have given a lot in love... but never really got that reciprocated... so now, it's time to feel that unconditional love from someone. I don't understand men who say they love you but then can't live upto their words. Love is a commitment for a lifetime... and there should surely not be any "confusion", "don't know", "parents won't agree", etc. kinda of issues between the two people involved.
All I wanna tell you Gauri.. is that .. love is far deeper than what you are feeling now.. as you go ahead in life... your understanding of love with change with every passing phase... sometimes it will be good, sometimes horrendous.. but whatever it is... never play with anyone's emotions. Be true to yourself and her! :-)
5 comments:
How true Tannu...the definition keeps changing as you move through life..
Where we started isn't exactly where we end..most of the times.. :) but still nothing can take away the glory of being in love... no matter how long it lasts :)
i always read it whenever i feel a bit low ;) thanks for the article and for sharing your experience sis..
hey nice post tanvi :).. altough a pretty complex topic you have touched here ..
"it is more of companionship" : totally agree..
"unconditional love" : a word of wisdom .. ONLY and ONLY mother's love is unconditional..You may not agree to it now.. but may realise it eventually :)
"I think.. i have given a lot in love... but never really got that reciprocated... " : Most girls have this feeling.. :).. But I feel it does get reciprocated but not in a way we want..And I feel when we use the word unconditional: reciprocity shouldn't come in question and that's why I say only mother's love is unconditional :)
OH MY! I might start another blog post on your blog :D
But cheers! keep writing :)It's a pleasure to read what u write :)
Ohh what a great topic you have chosen.. a topic close to everyone's heart..
Love has many definitions.. "Being with someone you love is good, but being with someone who loves u is great!", "Love someone for the way they are and not for what you want them to be", "Love someone from heart, if it comes back, it's yours, if it doesn't it was never yours!!".. so basically anyone can go ahead and create his own defn of love..
For some people it happens many times ;) But what they recall is the FIRST love.. nobody says, "arre yar mera 5th love bahot achha tha.." :p So first love is something always special..
Having said that, I will modify one defn of love.. "Being with someone you love is good, being with someone who loves u is even better but being together who are madly in love with each other is the BEST!" and this is dedicated to ma Niksi.. Being with your partner through his/her thick n thin is what is LOVE for me!! I know I am in the right place and seriously wish GOD helps everyone to be right THERE..
Oops, Have I started blogging! Just went on and on.. :) btw good one Tanu!!
:) Thanks Swati.. i am sure your definition of love is quite evident from the way you have evolved in ur married life.. :) !!
gr88 going.. \m/
btw.. you SHD start blogging ;)
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